Watch how he treats others, he’d treat you same.

I remember this guy I had a serious crush on in secondary school(high school), he was just one of the guys ,average height, chocolate skin, dark and wavy hair, most importantly he had a nice smile. Truth is, he was a good-looking guy, but so many other guys were at that time, so you probably wouldn’t nominate him for “most handsome”, but something about him stood him out amongst the other guys, and that was the way he cared for his school bag and his uniform, his belongings generally. We were very young and playful so the normal thing for many of us then was to drop our bags carelessly on the floor and run after our friends getting our uniforms and socks extremely dirty and dusty in the process; but my highly esteemed crush was the only different one. He found a safe and clean enough “space” to keep his bag after school and all together, he frequently avoided activities that could ruin his uniform/outfit.

Sincerely, I was mesmerized, he unknowingly swept me off my feet.

I on the other hand, was a complete opposite😂, but I felt I’d be turned to gold if I was put in his care.

So many women still put themselves on a pedestal, they believe they’re so special that whichever way a guy acts he’ll always come back to them different and better. Don’t get me wrong, you’re that special even more, but for an “average man” that’s not his concern.

Few days ago, I was having a discussion with one of my uncles, and he went on and on about how he felt women were too important And the importance of the female child but this same man cheated so much on his wife, she asked for a divorce. Now, what on earth did that tell me? Some of these men know how special women are but they’d still maltreat ‘cos that’s who they are, that’s what they’re made up of, they don’t care about hurting nobody. Those kinds of men naturally don’t appreciate and care for what they have, and in this scenario that’s you.

I believe so many young girls still don’t understand that love isn’t the major thing, at some point love is abandoned on one side, but what keeps you going is understanding and respect you have for eachother.
Love and companionship start from the individuals who have come to an agreement to meet at this point. And what makes up a relationship are the believes, life, attitude, behaviour of these two people, this is why every relationship is different and what will work for a particular couple won’t work for the other. Same reason why there are different relationship problems.

You can predict the problems and strength of a relationship if you have knowledge of the individuals present in that relationship.


I’m not saying if you see a man who’s so caring towards his friends, family means he’s the perfect guy. He may not be, but I believe I’d feel safer in such hands. But if he’s a bad son/step son, brother, uncle, boss, customer, then I’d most likely soon be on the receiving end too, too much love doesn’t change anything. There’s nothing like “he’s too in love with me to lie to me” he’d lie to you in different languages.

I have the principle…”watch how he treats the people around him, he’d tell you so much about who he is as a person”…. It’s important to me.

Same thing goes to every young woman, have a heart made of gold and a goldsmith will find you.

Love always.

Hi! I’m Ale Oluwabusolami, you can call me Busola😊. I am a proud Nigerian and Yoruba girl, also quite privileged to be a physician in training. Probably not important but I am proudly dark skinned😊, I’m a big foodie, starting with shawarma and Ice-cream(yes! They deserve some highlight). I love shoes, I love travelling, I love adventure, My friends tell me I talk too much, I love my happy mood, I love surprises, I love romance, I love mystery, I love life generally and I love learning more everyday about it, I love beautiful places, they speak to my soul, other things responsible for that are music and quotes! I love my friends and family so much, finally, I love God. Basically, I’m just an average girl with an ambitious life, looking forward to an awesome one too. This is my little way of projecting those crazy things that go on in my head and I really hope that with time you will understand what exactly I am trying to say and do and it will be of great help to us. Yes! I am actually a queen, not in the royal concept though (I wish 😊), mine is way better, I queen in everything and I am not the only one, there's like a billion of us.❤


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